In Christmas we catch a glimpse of heaven.
A glimpse of reconciled loved ones and peace on earth.
A glimpse of joy and gift-giving and meaningful surprises.
A glimpse of gathering together and flowing abundance and reunions.
A glimpse of sorrows melted away, and routine meanness giving way to kind acts towards others.
Holiday Hell
But, in Christmas, we also see a foreshadowing of hell.
A foreshadowing of angry, tormented souls at each others throats.
A foreshadowing of misery and disappointed hopes and nasty surprises.
A foreshadowing of isolation and want and estrangements that defy all good will.
A foreshadowing of sorrows intensified to the breaking point, and routine meanness erupting into domestic violence, suicide, and downright viciousness.
And that is what makes the holidays so precious and so disturbing, so good and so awful, at the very same time.
It’s why suicides spike, and depression skyrockets, and domestic violence surges, at this time of year.
Truth be told, the holidays can be positively dangerous in very real ways.
The Intruder on Joy
Last year, I celebrated a Thanksgiving away from home with a dear relative and her family.
But it was hard not to think about my dad’s absence, and my mom’s stroke-induced silence.
It was hard not to think about my adult children’s misadventures, troubles, and soul struggles.
It was hard to feel the distance between us, a distance that didn’t used to be there.
And, most of all, it was hard to escape the reality of my own oft-broken heart, and my perpetual inability to heal myself.
Facing the Heartbreak
It’s a sad but true fact of life that those closest to us have the greatest power to break our hearts, and will break our hearts.
It stuck me last year that my heart is still deeply broken over the events of several years ago–and the resulting, ongoing damage to people I love.
And it’s because I cared so much that it still hurts so much.
On the other side of acute betrayal, slander, rejection, and cold-shouldering, I’m dining on the leftovers of a chronic broken heart and self-reproach.
Somehow it’s helpful to come right out and say it.
And when we have a cluster of heart-breaks all happening close together, the heart can shut down under the load.
We emotionally flat-line.
We are there but not there.
We go through the motions but we’re not in it.
Which then, in turn, creates a whole new set of heart-breaks.
We need someone far and above us, to stoop to us and pull us out from the pit, and make our hearts whole again.
A Love We Cannot Arrange
God didn’t sent the Christ Child on that very first Christmas to be featured on merchandise.
Or to create a false, tormenting pressure to be happy that only makes miserable people worse.
Or to give us a once a year medicating escape from life’s painful issues.
No, He sent His Son to carry the accumulated heart-break of the world, to suffer for the suffering so the joy of heaven would reign in them.
He allowed His Son to be supremely wounded for our sake, and to carry our crushing sorrows and our multiplied griefs.
He gladly over-supplies a most desperately-needed love we could never arrange or control.
He bends events in order to grace us where we are most broken and vulnerable and powerless, so we could really know Him and be set free.
And He did it all so His joyous power would enable us to risk a broken heart, to risk being vulnerable again and having our hearts broken again, for the sake of others.
The Original Christmas
So as I continue my long, winding, often ugly journey out of the land of multiple heartbreaks, this version of Christmas gives me hope.
All of earth was sighing, tormented, and groaning under the misery of sin.
And God had compassion on us and sent His Son to overthrow the regime of sorrow, horror, and evil.
Refusing to delegate or palm off the task, He Himself came to us–well disguised as a vulnerable newborn lying in a feed box and wrapped with dirty rags.
He especially came for the broken, the miserable, the estranged, the failures, and, above all, the sinner.
He came for you. He came for me.
He came to enter our misery, take it upon Himself, and invite us to enter into His everlasting joy.
Not by changing our circumstances or even by fixing other people.
But by transforming us.
That’s why the angel called it news of exceeding joy “which will be for all the people”!
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